Making sense of your date can be a minefield. To make it easier, body language expert, Adrianne Carter (aka The Face Whisperer), says you can learn a lot from body language alone. Adrianne says: ‘There are several myths about body language that young singles can keep in mind for their first date this Christmas. One key myth to dispel is the suggestion that first impressions are always right. ‘This is not necessarily the case – many first dates can be daunting and when given the opportunity to relax, people tend to show their true selves as you get to know them better.’
That being said, Adrianne says there are a few common personalities to look out for on a date. She’s shared what they can mean below – but remember, it may be worth a second date to be absolutely certain.
The Smooth Operator – Five body language dating personalities to look out for
This person likes to keep their options open.
Adrianne says: ‘They can often be seen on a date preening their hair, directing their feet towards others (or the door) and have what appears to be a constant smirk on their face.
‘The way this dating personality walks is an easy way to identify them, as they have a swagger or strut in their step.
‘Everything’s on their terms – they are often methodical in their approach to dating and are true smooth talkers.’
The Real Deal – Five body language dating personalities to look out for
On a date, their smiles are genuine and they have an open and relaxed posture – such as open arms and relaxed shoulders – this tells you they’re genuinely looking to date you.
This maintains ‘the right amount of eye contact to convey that they are truly interested, by asking the right questions, listening to your answers and answering your questions too’, Adrianne explains.
She adds: ‘They can often be seen on a date leaning into the other person, relaxed in their posture, or even with a little bit of touching on the upper arm or knees.
‘Through their open body language they are likely to give an eyebrow flash to their date to show their keenness for future dates.
‘They’re most likely looking to find common ground with their match by being upfront about what they’re looking for when dating and are the most authentic in their interactions.’
The Cryptic – Five body language dating personalities to look out for
This person can seem aloof and even distracted on a date.
Adrianne says: ‘Their posture will be stiff, they’ll keep their distance physically and place barriers between themselves and their date, by keeping their chin high or leaning away.
‘When dating, this personality has a tendency for arriving late, going on their phone and rarely takes the lead in making arrangements for the date or shaping the conversation while on the date itself.
‘They’re present in person, but might display behaviours which give off an uninterested or unavailable vibe.’
This could mean they aren’t into you, or are trying to ‘play it cool’ or ‘hard to get.’
The Grafter – Five body language dating personalities to look out for
This person is ‘tactile on a date and will make their interest clear by leaning in and intensely gazing at their match’.
Adrianne says: ‘They convey enthusiasm and engagement with a full, upright posture.’
They may come across as ‘too keen’ as they put lots of effort in.
The Overthinker – Five body language dating personalities to look out for
This person is a bit unsure of themselves and is more hesitant on a date.
Adrianne says: ‘On a date, they tend to fidget, might have their arms folded and sometimes laugh nervously or go red. They will often avoid eye contact, be a bit awkward and bite their nails or lips.
‘This dating personality will come across as self-conscious, freeze if asked a question that they don’t know the answer to, or at the other end of the spectrum, be hyperactive and ramble.’
One way to tackle nervousness is to share how you’re feeling with your date.
Original article here for Metro – 21st November 2022 – Adrianne Carter.